When your ego appears, you lose touch with the oneness and the truth of “nothing beyond the mind.” The ego tries to divide reality and reject it. The presence of emotion implies that you refuse to accept what you have created.
How to make it change? You must find the root of reality in order to change it. The root is your mind, and the mind manifests the reality of the moment. So, if you consistently practice from the mind, you will have more freedom and will know how to live from the source of life and create the reality you want. In order to bring forth a wonderful new reality you must challenge the present undesirable reality that you have created.
To face reality is to face your mind. When you do that, you can manifest a new reality.