Thoughts are phenomena. Your physical body and relationships are phenomena. How to work with phenomena? You must uplift your inner state: your state of mind. Many practitioners are so focused on the mind that they try to ignore or reject phenomena. They fail to recognize that phenomena are reflection of the mind. If you can understand and realize this principle, you will have a better life.
Each problem is a phenomenon that originates from your mind. Uplift your mind so that old concepts and beliefs can be released. Then better phenomena will manifest. This understanding is essential. It is the prerequisite for a better life.